March 20, 2017
they recently showed the Theory of Everything on free-to-air tv. While Stephen Hawking is an inspirational figure, he’s not necessarily aspirational for me. I’m nowhere near as smart. We need people we can relate to. I accomplish things because I’m not dumb and work really hard.
I know Dr. Stephen Strange is fictional but I could weirdly relate more to the film Doctor Strange. I’m not a surgeon but I guess it had to do with embracing the unexplainable despite bring logical.
Strangely enough in the movie Logan, I could relate to both Professor X and Wolverine – this was the first time I saw myself in two characters. Maybe it was their “fall from grace” so atypical of a superhero flick or maybe it’s because I’m such a comic book nerd.
Regardless, we’re all different, relate to certain things, and process things at our own pace. Despite people’s insistence, a single, magic, silver bullet “solution” doesn’t always exist. Some issues are divergent or require multiple things acting in harmony. Narrowing it to one thing would be great but that isn’t always possible.
February 23, 2017
Newton coined the expression standing on the shoulder of giants. With the advent of the Internet I think this could be extended by adding goblins and gnomes to giants.
Aside from what to do, I think you can also learn from what NOT to do. Hence the term goblins. I’ve always felt you can gain from people what to emulate and what to avoid. Granted some of this may be repetitious but sometimes lessons need to be repeated to ensure they are drilled in thoroughly.
I subscribe to the wisdom of the crowd and individual empowerment. You can also build upon ideas of people who might not be considered as giants in their field – that’s why I use the term gnome to highlight the contrast. An idea may be good despite its origin. Admittedly, we are more likely to learn from “experts” (being a teacher in a former life, it would be hypocritical to think otherwise). That said, we also need to be open and allow cross-pollination from other disciplines or differing opinions. All ideas must be given a fair chance.
The original quote will always be valid but IMHO it can do with an adaption to our times.
December 14, 2016
yesterday, everything that could go wrong did. There are just days like that – it didn’t help that I couldn’t exercise the day before (it seems that’s how I deal with stress). I’m not a big fan of disability being used as inspiration porn – it’s merely a snapshot and we experience bad days too. Some times are like insurance write-offs – we should be allowed to feel grumpy occasionally (although knowing my personality, I’m surprised this doesn’t occur more often). We’ve just learnt to deal with the situation and put one foot in front of the other.
Some people use reality tv (and disability) to feel better about their own lives. Other people’s plight should be a source of empathy or compassion and don’t exist for others’ motivation (if it “inspires” you to be a better person than well and good but if it only stops you from whinging because you feel lucky or blessed then deeper reflection is needed).
Everyone likes to watch fails (myself included) – experiencing Schadenfreude is natural for humans. My own experiences leads me to believe that externalities as a source of joy can’t compensate for the “emptiness”(they can only make life more “bearable”).
November 22, 2016
it is like a balancing act (walking on a tightrope as it were) between acceptance and “raging against the dying of the light” – I think the latter is too negative and implies merely fighting (which is not always the most appropriate metaphor). I do not claim to get the mix always right but at least I’m more conscious of it. I try hard and exert enormous effort despite not always succeeding: it is partly a function of my inherent stubbornness and my will to be better.
The reality is people with ataxia mostly do not improve: the point of physical therapy is to stave off or delay degradation. Aside from my daily exercises, I will endeavor to do the home program that my neurophysio gave me more regularly because it is supposed to be highly beneficial for my condition. My appointment with my neurologist and the report from my physio prompted me to reflect (not to mention the PT students going on holiday).
Not having a “name” for my condition is a double-edged sword: not knowing does not “box” me in a fixed category on one hand; on the other, I struggled at first because I wanted to learn as much as I could so that I could take appropriate actions to delay (or better yet eliminate) it. Not to be too fatalistic but all people are dying since their birth: some are just more accelerated than the “average”.
September 15, 2015
as Jefferson and Biden’s mum articulated: Nobody is better than you but you are not better than anyone else. The former was deeply ingrained in me; the latter part is still a lesson I’m trying to grapple with.
“Better” is best used as an adjective for a given criterion and applied with, as the MOVER’s of La Salle used to espouse, S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound) characteristics – may be not the ‘A’ so much, it is for goals after all.
We would empathise with others more if we tried to refrain from judging them immediately. Admittedly, it’s not always easy. That said, there are people you don’t like, don’t get along with or who don’t think like you. Give them time and the benefit of the doubt but you’re only human after all and you’ll eventually choose to avoid them. That’s quite understandable.
It’s blanket thinking and attributing traits to all that’s the real danger. It is being conscious of generalising the out-group, forgive the psychological jargon, and treating them as individuals instead.