turn that frown upside down

November 12, 2013

psychologists say that the act of smiling can change your mood.  As anyone that knows me can attest, I’m naturally grumpy – so much so that my son calls me a Grinch even if I’m not anti-Christmas (I’m not a big fan of carols though.) I’ve always believed that one needs to be true to one’s self but trying a “forced” smile is worth it to experience some happiness.

as you like it

August 1, 2013

one of the things i like about Australia is you can like what you  and not give a stuff.  This was markedly different to the culture I grew up in – sure what other’s think is sometimes relevant but most of the time it’s unimportant.   I was first exposed to this in my graduate studies back in 2001.  You  weren’t expected to dress “nice” for everyday events – you could generally ruck up how you please.  The laid-back attitude suited me fine. Don’t get me wrong, I think you need to dress appropriately for each occasion but I’ve always felt that comfort is more important than porma – you tend to be judged on what you wear.

It didn’t matter so much if you prefered a top drop or completely content with a “value” bottle of plonk – all our tastes are different.  Sure, some “gourmets” are considered as wankers but that has more to do with pretense than what they enjoy.  You’re not constantly feeling judged.  Some people think it (that can’t be helped), but at least they generally leave you alone to live your own life.

When a female friend came to stay with us a while, she was pleasantly surprised that no one stared at her every time she dined alone unlike back where we’re originally from.  We told her that’s just the way it is here.  It’s not all good – al cultures are damaged.  We still experience some racism – although it’s much milder now.  We suspect some of it has gone underground with the advent of political correctness.  It’s simply a matter of what you can deal with.  What did Bismark say (something like) :  “Never argue with fools, people might not know the difference.”

I embraced being a nerd back in high school but I think it was more a function of rebellion than anything else I – I have since “accepted” this fact.  This is something from Wil Wheaton, an American actor who was a cast member of Star Trek: The Next Generation:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_BtmV4JRSc#at=71 It’s about nerds and being true to yourself.

doors

March 1, 2012

my wife wants to paint the front doors of our new house – i guess i’m not that fussed as i won’t see the exterior that often.