one fine day
January 7, 2017
my wife’s niece is getting married later today.
The Filipino tradition (Hispanic in origin ) arras (13 coins) presented by the bridegroom to the bride was rightly scraped by the couple and didn’t make much sense in the Australian context. We shouldn’t be so beholden or precious with rituals and just welcome the nod to recognising heritage. This type of symbolism should be changed to suit (or eliminated entirely).
My view on marriage is it shouldn’t be an outdated institution but a living-breathing social construct (that’s not for everyone and should be an individual’s choice and not dictated by societal convention) that’s adaptable to present realities. In fairness, they did scrap “obey” from the vows. Legal divorce in the Philippines (if I’m not mistaken, we’re the last holdout country) is a seperate issue.
There’s even a proposal for 10-year terms instead of forever. This might not be the solution to the “high” rate of divorce but the conversation’s welcome. Silver, Golden and Diamond anniversaries seem to be unrealistic given wedding as teens is no longer the norm.
Do we now put to much emphasis on the day itself (encouraged by an entire industry) and not the upcoming unified life?
Full disclosure: Have been married now for a little over 14 years