what dreams may come
August 22, 2013
a former computing student of mine has a gig in America as a back-up singer to Lea Salonga – she has one of the best voices I’ve ever heard. It just goes to show you: it’s shouldn’t be about what the family thinks is best but rather about what the child actually wants. Admittedly, it’s hard for any parent seeing their child struggle but they need to learn to be supportive and respect the child’s happiness. Sometimes the best of intentions have unintended consequences.
It’ not always just about what they’re good at or what’s expected of them but truly what they’re interested in. As a case in point, my son is strong in maths but he seems to us more inclined to the arts. Anyway, it’s early days and his proclivities may still change – we just need to expose him to different things so that he can make an “informed” decision when the time comes. They say if you enjoy what you do, you never work a day in your life – I think you subconsciously put more effort in to what you do. Not everyone is “lucky” enough to know what they want to be when they grow up.
I think my neurologist might be on to something with his “modified” gap year where his kids need to be gainfully employed for at least half of the time. If I were to “consider” it, there would be some mods. I think 3 months should be spent in industry while at least 3 months should be involved with the community. They should travel overseas to broaden the mind for some “informal” learning. While there, they must partly support themselves and try to learn the local language or dialect. Ideally they should live in 2 countries: one with a developed and another with a developing economy so that they can see the differences for themselves in everyday life. During the course of the year, they can take different topics online for free so that they can “better” determine which direction they want to take next.
I hope I don’t eat my words when the time comes – people and minds can change =)